I recently revived my relationship with a long-time acquaintance via email, and was surprised by the rudeness of the reply. I had received similar responses at times over the years, and this just baffled me. I responded, and received more of the same. Then I did some digging to past correspondence and found a political cartoon I had sent years ago, and Aha! It could’ve been objectionable as it portrayed a distinct point of view, but having received no response at the time, I carried on as if all was well. It wasn’t.
Reconstructing where the whole thing went south, the issue was no response from my friend to an expression of perceived offense at the time, instead choosing dysfunction. I then wrote my friend and pointed this out, to speak up and have the courage of one’s convictions. Otherwise confusion ensues. (Although I am using this example of another’s behavior to illustrate this particular issue, I certainly have acted similarly in the past).
This is how life is conducted – in the present. So many of us have unresolved conversations with others, those with whom we share a short or long-term karmic bond. To muddle this is to create a world of delusion, making up endless stories in our minds to absorb some of the pregnant energy held hostage by the fear of what might happen if we spoke up, and challenged the status quo.
Granted we always want to approach such interactions constructively, to avoid what is called a pissing contest, one-upsmanship, the reassertion of the ego into delusion, or any ill-thought out response. Nonetheless, it is imperative that we act, as we think, in every situation.
No hypocrisy. No doing one thing and thinking another. This creates distortion in our consciousness, and instead of improving an ever evolving life, as hypocrites we dwell in Hell, lost and separated from Cosmic life. We can no longer interact clearly with others, or ourselves; Dharma cannot be found.
It is common in our fast modern lives to have interactions with others where our point of view needs to be expressed, whether to express a positive sharing, or to express a challenging one. This doesn’t need to be dramatic, only that it occurs at all. Karmic resolution; completion. We don’t live for others, and we have a unique purpose to fulfill.
Sometimes these interactions illuminate flaws in how we see ourselves, and locate unintentional crutches we may use to inappropriately castigate other people, cultures, and organizations in order to shore ourselves up. This doesn’t have to be obsessive, but to be mindful of such traps can help us act with integrity, and establish such a habit of spiritual self-sufficiency – not equating to a reclusive life but simply taking full responsibility for one’s thoughts and actions, no excuses.
Having resolved our past challenges and moving forward unencumbered, it becomes natural to act with conviction, and uphold Cosmic law in any situation. Our minds clear of conflict, we find endless possibilities in how to act and think in a balanced and calm way.
Always starting from now, and taking life one moment at a time, living then regains its freshness, its immediacy, its Divine gifts. Rather than miserably tracking a script for the ego director, we live in fullness and freedom.
~ Jai Guru Dev ~